Everything seemed perfect. Baby #2 was falling asleep while breastfeeding in our bed. It usually took her 15 minutes but I always had waited longer before I got up to make sure she was sleeping hard. I would check Instagram, Pinterest, read some news and reply to all new messages in the meantime. Then, I would come downstairs and complain to my husband that putting her to sleep took me soooooo long 🤭
KARMA is a bi**h.
I always thought wonder weeks, growth spurts, sleep regressions, etc. were BS until I actually experienced the 4-month sleep regression.
Seriously, it couldn’t get ANY worse. I HAD to go to sleep with her. There was no point in going back and forth so during tough days I decided to stay in bed for the night.
What’s more, baby #2 needed constant contact with THE base (if you know what I mean… (.)(.) ) and when the connection was lost, her eyes would open widely. It was a nightmare that lasted about…. 2 weeks.
My breasts looked like crepes, my nipples were strung like in Mentos commercial, my hips were hurting. Nightmare. Believe me.
And, on the top of it all, my husband, after watching 2 episodes of The Blacklist and enjoying a glass of whiskey on the rocks in peace, would come upstairs hoping for some cuddling.
Over my dead body!
On my 4-month checkup the pediatrician told me that I CAN START the sleep-training. And then she basically explained me the golden rules of “cry it out” method.
For those of you who didn’t hear about this method:
It is a sleep training method that teaches babies how to sleep through the night.
Parents are supposed to put their baby in the crib fully awake allowing her to cry for hours until she falls asleep.
I am not the type of person who complains about everything connected to motherhood. I love being a mother. I understand that everything is temporary, everything is a process and this little munchkin is depending on me in every single aspect of her existence.
It is extremely necessary to a new mother to understand that this new human being is not mean nor selfish. She just needs you.
Imagine how would you feel if someone refused to hug you. Pretty bad, am I right?
That being said, I will NEVER sleep train my kiddos. Never.
Few facts about sleep training:
◦ There is no evidence that sleep training doesn’t affect their emotional development
◦ There is no evidence sleep training is safe for parent-child relationship
◦ Stress can affect child’s development and her relationship with a parent
Basically, kids left in their beds eventually stop crying because they know no one will come. It doesn’t mean they stop waking up.